So just shy of 6 weeks into our move to New Zealand from sunny South Africa.. It has been a rollercoaster ride to say the least, but we have tackled it positively (for most of the time) and are embracing the many changes.

Last night however I had my 3rd incident of being paralysed by fear. I laugh at myself after the time but the reality of it is isn’t all that funny. Coming from a country with the most resilient and highly adaptable people, feeling fear is just a normal part of one’s day. Now maybe fear is perceived as a strong word to some because ‘fear’ can be widely varied and the scales of fear are vast, so let me elaborate..

A few different emotions come to my mind.. Awake, alert, alarmed, aware, anxious, worried, nervous, uncomfortable. I got so used to living with those emotions that I didn’t even know I was experiencing them.

Coming from the cushy suburbs of Johannesburg, I’d even go as far as to say that I was pretty safe, most of the time. As a Civil Engineer, I thank my guardian angels for the protection I had going to some hair-raising work sites, but I never had any incidents happen to me personally and for that I am grateful. It doesn’t mean however that I didn’t feel those emotions I described above, often and with daily occurrence.

It is funny how quickly we forget our previous surroundings and fall into new ways. After the first week in Auckland, I no longer put my handbag in the boot and didn’t check if the car doors were locked. I have long since stopped looking around me at traffic lights and leaving a space behind the car in front of me. We walk around the park in the evening and take the forest paths just because we can. We drive (or stroll) down our street at midnight and don’t look back to see if we’re being followed, don’t even think about the lack of gates, guards or security vehicles.

My first reality check was about 3 weeks in. I was hanging the washing in the backyard when I heard someone walking towards me. I couldn’t see anyone but I could hear the crunch of the stones under their feet and I knew they were getting closer. Not being able to see them I went into stealth mode, checking where I could escape to depending on which side they approached me from. Turns out the neighbour, on the other side of the wooden ‘fence’, was taking a walk around their house and I could get back to my washing with my heart in my mouth racing a bit above normal.

The second incident happened about a week later on my walk to the grocery store. Kitted with my backpack and off to find us dinner I went.. Passing underneath a highway bridge I was suddenly deafened by this thundering sound that I could only think to be bullets. I screamed and ducked down and then to my delight and total embarrassment realized there was a second bridge – a train had passed over. The lady walking her dog on the other side of the road pretended she didn’t see what I had done, but probably questioned my mental state somewhat.

Then last night while Daniel was in the shower and I was parked on the lounge floor (the joys of ‘glamping’) working on my laptop, I heard a banging noise in the house. I first shrugged it off and then when it persisted it dawned on me that we have no burglar proofing and if I’d left the bedroom window open, someone may be inside. I crept around the lounge towards the bedroom afraid of what I would find. Nothing lurking in our room, oh shit, the spare bedroom. Working up the courage to peer into the dark room, I realized that I had no idea where the noises came from and panic really set in. I dashed into the bathroom to tell Daniel, only to have him burst out laughing, he had been trying to kill mosquitoes.

My poor, shattered nerves! haha!

I am not writing this to bash South Africa, it is merely to tell you what I am experiencing and why. We become so used to being locked away behind our electric fences, high walls, security beams, guards, dogs and gates that when we are home, we mostly do feel safe. Without those ‘protectors’ in place there is a feeling of vulnerability that I am unaccustomed to, that I am slowly learning to embrace.

Many people in South Africa don’t have the luxury of being safe though and the reality of that is bleak. So this post is dedicated to a long-time friend, living in real fear. Not the kind you look back on and laugh about.. She needs our help, her life depends on it. So please consider checking out the link below and contributing something to help making a difference. My aim is to get 500 people to donate R100, all together a small amount can make a huge impact!





Chuffed, CBD

Chuffed, CBD

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Tucked away from street view, we were really chuffed to have found this little ‘back alley’ hangout.

The atmosphere is laid back and was perfect for a Sunday outing and quick bite to eat. This café is only open during the day making it a good option for breakfast or lunch. The menu isn’t huge but has a wide enough variety for breakfast (starting from $11) and a few interesting options for lunch with a number of pre-made foods, if time isn’t on your side.

We opted for a toasted, Poached Chicken sandwich to share ($11) which was a generous portion size and absolutely delicious. The smoked feta and a hint of chilly which I wasn’t expecting, gave it just the kick it needed.

The house chardonnay ($8) was full of flavor and the Pale Ale ($10) was spot on! They also have a range of sodas, brews, tonics and coffees to choose from too. I liked that the jug of complimentary water brought to the table was sparkling, it is a small detail but it didn’t go unnoticed.

It was pretty full and is clearly quite popular. The only downside was that the service was pretty average. The staff were friendly but our food arrived before our drinks which is never ideal.


The Obliteration Room, Auckland

Welcome to the Obliteration Room. An artistic concept by Japanese Artist Yayoi Kusama presented at the Auckland Art Gallery until the 2nd of April 2018. The story behind it is that as a young girl the artist started seeing the world through a screen of dots which covered everything she looked at. For the last 40 years she has made sculptures, paintings and photographs using dots to cover surfaces and fill rooms.

Entering into the Obliteration Room made me feel like I was somehow Alice in Wonderland. A concept that had me intrigued from the get go, as there is something just magical about colour.

The display started off as a blank canvas in December 2017, a totally white room. Then slowly but surely it has transformed itself into this. On entry every person is given a sheet of colourful stickers to add to the room.

As you can imagine there are quite a few children who join in on the action. There are couches, a dining room table and chairs and even a piano for them to play on, so definitely worth a visit if you have little ones. 

And as for us adults…. “Those who don’t believe in magic will never find it.”

Pop-up Globe theatre, Auckland

Where better to watch a Shakespearean play than in a replica of an actual ancient theatre built by Shakespeare and his team. The first ‘Globe’ stood for a few years but burnt down during one of his plays, it was then re-built in 1614 and stood until 1644 when it was demolished in the English Civil War.

What was supposed to be a once-off performance in remembrance of Shakespeare’s death (400 years ago) in 2016, is currently celebrating the 3rd set of performances in Auckland and will be going on until the 1st of April 2018.

I was spoilt with a ticket on Valentine’s day to go and see Macbeth but there are also four other shows to choose from which include: Midsummer Night’s Dream, The Merchant of Venice, The Comedy of Errors and Julius Caesar.

The theatre seats up to 900 people and there are a variety of tickets for sale, ranging from standing tickets at 10$ (the ‘peasant’ tickets) to seated, premium tickets at 199$ for the real die-hard Shakespeareans. As we are both Civil Engineers by qualification we were in awe of the intricate scaffolding and how the theatre was built.

It rained during the second half of the show but they continued to act without fuss. Only the people in the standing section got wet but nothing a rain jacket couldn’t handle, so go prepared for the weather. A lovely night out with a little dose of English culture for the soul.

The theatre is over for 2018 but with some luck it will be back in 2019 so keep an eye out for it!



Elisabeth, Kingsland

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Having arrived to the tail end of a cyclone heading towards the South Island, we were showered down on during our first few days in Auckland. We were recommended Elisabeth by our hosts to combat our cabin fever and it definitely did the trick.

Located on New North Road, in one of my favourite suburbs of Kingsland, this charming coffee and dessert spot is definitely worth a visit.

They have a wide variety of hot drinks, so if you are not a coffee fan, there is something for everyone. Their Hot Chocolate ‘Mess’ ($7) consists of fair-trade, organic cocoa chocolate imported from the African islands of São Tomé and Príncipe as well as from the Dominican Republic. They get the bits of chocolate by shaving it away from these big blocks of decadence.

There’s a street gazing section up front or you can opt to lounge in the back and rather read your book or hang out with a group of friends.

We tried their Hot Chocolate ‘Mess’ (of course) and a Vanilla/Chai latte ($6). The chocolate was delicious and not overpoweringly sweet due to it consisting mostly of dark chocolate (72%). The latte was very much on the sugary side but I suppose that’s not unusual considering the description. Their portion size is generous and you will satisfied with your fill. They also have an array of desserts available which look delicious if your sweet tooth gets the better of you.

10 tips for packing

10 tips for packing

Making a move is tough for most people. It involves change and as most of us are creatures of habit, change can be rather uncomfortable. I have often been told that along with death and divorce, moving is one of life’s most stressful activities. Obviously there are various degrees of moving, from seemingly small changes to major life-changing ones but the one thing they all have in common is the need to prepare for them. Whether it be moving suburbs, jobs, cities or countries the element of preparation is unavoidable.

As for our move it’s been a rather daunting one. My husband Daniel got offered a job in Auckland, New Zealand last year October and here we are – 3 months and 1 week later – trying to fathom how to live life here, all the way on the other side of the globe. Now I know many people have made big moves like this before us and advice is freely available on 7 million Google sites, but until it is your turn to pack up, get up and make the move, grasping the realities of it all remain rather foreign.

Along this fast-paced journey of ours, I have jotted a few things down that I hope may alleviate someone’s stress, somewhere out there and may provide support to you knowing that you are not alone!


  1. Planning

I’ve briefly touched on the need to plan but this is something I can’t emphasize enough. A move of this magnitude requires a lot of administration and forward thinking. I have always been a very organized person that mostly doesn’t forget important events but when the pressure starts to mount, forgetfulness can set in. Whether you have a year to plan or only a few weeks, I would recommend making organized lists of what needs to be done along the way. Arriving in a foreign country in a totally different time zone and trying to make calls home to banks, insurance companies etc will really dampen your mood.

  1. Budget

Now this really should be general knowledge but just in case, let me enlighten you – a move is EXPENSIVE! We were really fortunate that most of our relocation was paid for by Daniel’s company but there were still many unforeseen costs that cropped up along the way. Some of it will even be reimbursed to us down the line but when the time came, we needed to have the cash to pay some things upfront. Your budget will dictate if and how your move will take place. ‘What will it cost to ship your house contents over’ or ‘what will it cost to replace home contents over there’, ‘what are the price of visas, medicals and flights?’, ‘what deposits are required on house rentals’ ‘is public transport adequate or will I need to have money to buy a car’ are questions you really need to ask yourself. What I found really helpful for New Zealand were two websites in particular ‘trademe’ and ‘PriceMe, where you can virtually find the prices of nearly anything new or used for sale.

Just know that if you haven’t got any savings in store and are planning on working off your already stretched salary to afford everything, you are probably not going to cope. Having a good idea of what things were going to cost us from the onset, really gave me peace of mind and realistic expectations along the way.

  1. Clear up contracts

The minute I knew we were actually leaving, I started calling up all my providers. From medical aid, gym contracts, insurances to cellphone contracts, home fibre and lease agreements, all of these have specific clauses for cancellations. For the most part I was able to set a termination date but for something like a phone contract it is a bit trickier. It’s helpful though to know what you will still need to pay for once you leave, so that it can be taken into account in your budget.

  1. Join a Facebook group

A friend of mine that had moved to Australia recommended that I join a group on Facebook for the city we would be moving to and I am so glad that I did. It helps not to have to bump your own head at every turn and take into account what others have experienced along the way. I joined ‘South African’s moving to Auckland’ and knowing Facebook, there are bound to be loads of these groups for most other cities out there. I did my own research at first because having to spoon feed people is just irritating in my opinion, but I got great recommendations along the way and could ask questions whenever I hit a roadblock.

  1. Communicate

I was fortunate to make this move with my husband and I realize that it can be such a plus to not have to do this alone BUT the emotions you experience along the way fluctuate. We had days when he would be so excited for what lay ahead and I would be an emotional wreck thinking about all we were going to be leaving behind. Communicating how you are feeling to your partner, or in the case that you are doing it alone – to friends and family, is important to take stock of where you are at and what level of support you actually need. Like with most emotions in life, bottling them up leads to far more frustration than what is necessary. (I’m sure this point will be more welcomed by my female counterparts).

  1. Get an adapter or 2

There is nothing worse than getting to a foreign country and not being able to communicate with anyone at all. We arrived in Auckland with no adapters for our phones or laptop and it sure made life more stressful. To make matters worse I spent an entire day running between hardware stores, corner cafes and even an electrical shop to find NO adapter for an ordinary South African plug. Needless to say my plug got chopped and replaced very quickly, but that in itself requires some tools you probably won’t be carrying around in your luggage.

  1. Notify your bank and medical aid provider of your departure

So on previous travels abroad I have always remembered to do these quick but very important tasks before leaving the country. With all that was on our minds though notifying the bank that we would be travelling, first to Sydney and then to Auckland, didn’t even occur to us. Not great when you arrive somewhere and try to use your credit card only to find it won’t allow you to pay for anything. It raises your heart-rate and could leave you pretty stranded but it is SO avoidable, so put this on the ‘just before we leave’ list.

  1. Know the countries restrictions on duty free products (and don’t just trust Google)

Some of the cheaper purchases in South Africa are cigarettes and alcohol and so when travelling abroad one tends to factor these items in on one’s ‘shopping’ list. I did a quick Google search on Australia’s restrictions and made sure we were within the 50 cigarette and 3 bottles of wine limit. Halfway through the flight we receive cards to complete for boarder security only to be told the limit on cigarettes is actually down to 25. Now this may not seem like a big deal if you don’t smoke but TRUST me when I say it is pretty sad to have anything taken away from you at boarder control. Needless to say, many a cigarette was lost to the toilet dustbin that flight.

  1. File your paperwork carefully

When it is time to say goodbye and the big day arrives try to have all your paperwork neatly sorted, in some sort of file, prior to the time. We had copies of our work visas, passports, ID’s and international driver’s permits ready to go.  We all know the sentiment of feeling like a criminal – even though you know with all your heart that you are not – at an airport (thank you Boarder Control Australia). When officials at the airport want to see your paperwork, it is a relief to have everything you need ready to present to them. Oh and one more thing, have the address of where you are staying on-hand because you will need to fill it out on some or another form.

  1. Don’t let it absorb you

There is SO much that goes into a move and before you know it you are sitting in a foreign country and it’s all done and dusted. The emotions hit me far harder than I ever imagined, especially in the final few days leading up to D-Day. It’s exciting and scary and very, very difficult to say goodbye to all you know and love. Try to not get so wrapped up in the actual move that you don’t take the time to see the people you need to see and spend time with your special souls. After all, there will always be more efficient ways to move and better ways to do things but we all get to the other side somehow or another!


So having given you all this advice, I must just finish off with this… Great preparation does not always guarantee good execution. Try to come to peace with the fact that things WILL go wrong, despite you doing everything in your power to have things fall into place at the right time it doesn’t always happen. As we speak, we will most likely be camping in our future apartment (that we still haven’t secured) for a month or two, while we patiently wait for our delayed container to arrive. You will either let it drive you mad or realize it’s all part of the process –you learn to adapt and be more comfortable with change.

P.s Pack a pen in your handbag, fanny pack, backpack, flip file or wherever it’s easy to reach – it’s never fun having to borrow someone else’s. J